When you truly know who you are, you no longer are affected by what others say or think about you. This is because you will see that whatever they are saying is either true and you are already working on that within yourself or that they are projecting their own insecurities out on you.
In any relationship when the other person is insecure about themselves, they will either consciously or subconsciously try to make the other person feel the way they do. This is why it is so important to be aware of who is giving you feedback and advice in your life, ask yourself are they coming from a place of love or attack? A place of true desire to help you or to belittle and degrade you in an attempt to make you feel insecure. The answer will become clear once you truly know yourself.
Many people spend a lot of time trying to get to know someone, they ask them deep questions and spend quality time together. Have you given yourself space in your life to do this? Are you comfortable being alone, even being alone without anything to entertain you? Can you tap into the peace, joy, and love that is already within you or are you constantly looking for it externally in for the next person, place or thing to fulfill you?
To get to know yourself you much ask yourself some really deep questions. Find space in your life to go inside yourself to get to know yourself on a deeper level. You may not know the answer right away, and that is okay. Be patient with yourself and enjoy the journey of getting to know yourself.
Here are the 10 questions (with my answers as an example)
1. What are your personal strengths?
I can do anything I set my mind to, strong willpower.
I can feel what others feel, strong empathy.
I am a self-aware seeker of truth and wisdom.
2. What are your personal weaknesses?
I do not have a concept of time - Causes me to be late.
I trust people too quickly and easily - Causes me to get hurt.
3. What triggers you to get upset or feel pain?
When people forcefully take my time without me wanting to give it to them.
When people disrupt my natural blissful state of being and creative flow.
When people do things that harm themselves, others and the earth.
4. What kind of activities do you engage in to heal from pain?
My entire list is here - 30 Ways To Heal
5. What is your greatest fear?
Losing the people I love.
6. What do you desire?
A simple peaceful place I can create and live in.
7. What is your life's greatest challenge?
Staying balanced and enjoying the journey.
8. What is your go-to healthy activity when you get stressed, anxious or overwhelmed? Workout, run, practice yoga, lift weights or meditate.
9. What would you do if time froze for 10 years? Make art and write.
10. On your death bed, you would die at peace if...?
I gave back more than I took from life.